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Power Plays and Players Threats Quitting Time Disciplining Terminations Manipulation Who's In Charge?

We have a very good employee, but every time something does not go his way, he threatens to quit. We have been bending over to meet his needs, but now there is some resentment building toward him, not only from managers but from some of his fellow employees too. How do you deal with an employee like this?

You are in the midst of a power play, and this employee is playing you. He threatens to leave, and you grant his wishes. This is ultimately a formula for widespread resentment from others in your organization. It is also a formula that encourages repeat performances of his threatening act and actions.

Most employers would not tolerate any kind of threat from an employee. It will be helpful for you to try to figure out why such behavior is acceptable to you.

You state that he is a very good employee. Presumably you are describing his technical skills, but there is more to being a good employee than that. A good employee certainly has the skills, but he or she also shows teamwork, loyalty, and commitment, among other things. Your employee is not very good when it comes to this.

You should give him direct feedback on his inappropriate demands and the consequences if they continue. The consequences can range from discipline to termination. Secondly, stop giving in to his demands. And finally, start training or searching for a replacement. At some point, he is going to carry out his threat, and you should be prepared to carry out yours as well.

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Posted by Website visitor on 2015-04-17 17:09:19
Reminds me of my current situation. A co worker has tried to quit several times only to change her mind on her last day of work. She has asked the manager if she could work part time while she looks for a job. The manager has allowed her to do this without taking in to consideration that we had a plan set in motion for when she did actually quit. She still says she is quitting so we cant plan ahead because we don't know what she will do. I think she is power hungry because when she says she is quitting, she seems disappointed when the company owner nor some of the managers have came to her asking her about it.