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I was at a meeting with my manager and some members of senior management, and whenever I talked, my manager kicked me. I didn't know if he wanted me to keep talking or be quiet, so I ignored him. After the meeting, he said I was talking too much, and he was kicking me to get me to stop. I'm annoyed and don't know what to what tell him.

In the parlance of body language, a kick generally means for people to stop and mules to go. However, a manager is acting like mule if he is kicking employees during a meeting. But, if an employee is galloping down the wrong path in a meeting, some managers feel that the only way to rein things in is with a boot.

This means that you should look at your behavior as well as that of your manager. On the one hand, is it possible that you may have been a little too verbal? On the other hand, is it possible that you and your manager were ill-prepared? If a manager has worked with his or her staff and anticipated the questions, issues, and concerns that may arise in a meeting, the likelihood of an employee heading in the wrong direction is dramatically decreased.

Either way, you should tell your manager that you do not want to be kicked or touched in any way. And, if he feels you are out of line in a meeting, tell him that you would prefer he use his words instead of his feet.

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