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New Hires Mentors and Mentoring Orientation Responsiveness

When I joined this company about a month ago, I was assigned a mentor, but I can never find her. If I do track her down, she is always too busy to help me or even set an appointment. I told my manager about this, and he offered no help. What do you suggest?

It is difficult enough to have a mentor who is not mentoring, but when you combine it with a manager who does not seem to be managing, you have a work situation that is hardly workable. However, there are a couple of steps that can help. Although some people who hold the title of mentor are little more than tormentors, there are usually other people in the workplace who can be highly helpful and supportive, even if they hold no formal titles. You should talk to some of your fellow employees and see if any of them can help you during this orientation period. It would not be surprising to find an informal mentor among the group. If you find that you still cannot get any adequate guidance, then you should consider talking to the human resources representative if there is one, or else take your concerns higher in the organization. The larger problem is that the way in which new hires are treated can paint a rather clear picture of a company's overall style, standards, and objectives. In your situation, this does not sound like a very pretty picture.

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