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We were discussing operations in a departmental meeting when our manager misinterpreted some information and made a questionable recommendation. I gingerly corrected him, but he has been upset with me since then, and I'm not sure what to do about it.

On the one hand, you may be dealing with a manager who takes even the slightest bit of feedback far too personally; or, perhaps your ginger corrections were more bitter than you think. The best way to figure out what to do is to look at the incident more carefully.

The fact that you corrected him, rather than correcting the misinformation, indicates that your comments may have been more of an attack than you might think. In this type of situation, it is typically more helpful to correct data rather than correct people. You should meet with your manager and tell him what you really intended with your comments. If he interpreted them differently from what you meant, you should offer an apology. Increased awareness of your own style can help prevent this type of problem from recurring.

At the same time, if your comments did not come close to a personal attack, then you are dealing with a manager who has brought an extra dose of insecurity to the job. This means that you should still offer an apology, while recognizing that increased awareness of his style can help prevent this type of problem from recurring. One larger problem is that his baggage can stifle communication, coordination, creativity, and problem-solving in your department. This is not going to do much for his job security.

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