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Yelling Bullies Fear Self-Insight

I can honestly admit that I am a screamer, but none of the employees in my charge seem to care about it. If I blow up, I apologize, but my manager recently came down on me about my outbursts, and he did not care that my employees are not upset by them. How can I get him to stop worrying about this?

The main reason that your employees are not going to say anything about your screaming is that they are probably afraid that you will start screaming at them. Your manager has every right to be concerned about your outbursts since they are likely to be a source of dissatisfaction, absenteeism, turnover, reduced productivity, and even legal problems.

This means that it is time for you to take some real steps to upgrade your managerial menu and delete the screaming activity. You probably worked for a screamer somewhere in your career, and you modeled your leadership after his or hers. The problem is that this style is highly disruptive and in conflict with the philosophy, objectives, and mission of virtually every effective organization today.

Rather than trying to get your manager to stop worrying about your behavior, you should actually start worrying about your behavior. Your manager is sending you a clear message that points to a need for some changes in your behavior. In a word, being a manager is not a scream.

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Posted by Stop Screaming on 2010-06-28 23:49:01
Your employees are afraid you will discipline them if they say something.
Posted by Dale Paulson on 2010-12-10 09:24:47
Great website. I am particularly interested in this topic as I have just published a book available on Amazon called "Workplace Jerks, Will This Person be a Speed Bump, a Pothole or a Landmine." Thank you for highlighting this important topic. Dale Paulson, Ph.D.