|Your manager and some of her cronies have one objective in reviving old tales and jokes, and that is to exclude newcomers. And, that's no joke. This type of behavior smacks of amateurish managerial skills and a healthy dose of rudeness. Your manager should be trying to break up elitist cliques, rather than acting as ringleader. |
As for the steps to take in order to fit in, you may want to proceed slowly on this one. In the first place, with the passage of time, some of these barriers are going to come down as you get to know the various players better. Secondly, do you really want to be part of a group that puts new employees through the same aggravation that you are experiencing now?
Rather than rushing into anything, one initial step that can help your transition is to try to build your working relationship with some of the other employees who are not in the inner circle. As you mentioned, the group is composed of your manager and some of her pals, and this means that there must be at least a few other employees whom you can approach. You will probably find that you click better with them than with the clique anyhow.