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Teamwork Feedback Romance Policies and Procedures

It is like pulling teeth to get the supervisors in my department to work together. Last week, one of my employees told me that several supervisors who are married are having affairs with each other. I investigated and found the rumors are true. The affairs are happening after hours and on weekends. All of my employees are aware of this, and it is no wonder I cannot get any teamwork going. Can I approach these supervisors and let them know of the problems that are following them to work?

Although you are concerned about getting the supervisors in your department to work together, in one sense they are already working together far more than they should. The real issue is whether their behavior is impacting their performance on the job. If you see specific job-related problems following these supervisors to work, you should discuss such issues with them.

For example, if the supervisors are not pulling together as a team, if they have built no respect and trust with their employees, or if there are any other specific job-related problems, that is where you should focus. The supervisors need to understand the specific improvements that are needed, along with the consequences of continued problems.

If you approach these supervisors and zero in on their affairs, all that you will hear will be defensiveness, denials, outrage, and perhaps a legal threat. And, your impact on their questionable behaviors will be zero.

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