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Five of us work in a satellite office, and we are rarely included in any of the social events in the home office that is only about 20 minutes away. We have asked to be included at birthdays, retirements, and such, but we are usually forgotten. How do we get them to remember us?

People are familiar with the expression, "Gone, but not forgotten," while your department seems to be forgotten, but not gone. If you want to be on the "A-list" for these corporate social events, you will need to take some proactive steps.

For example, rather than asking to be included at these events, you should contact whoever is coordinating them and ask for an advance listing for a specific period, such as the coming month. You should also encourage this individual to send out a global e-mail to all employees who might be interested in attending.

At the same time, you should be careful about wishing to be included, as there are many employees who quickly tire of being on the guest list. Some feel that the gatherings are a frequent interruption, but they attend because it is politically correct to do so. Others are also concerned about their own consumption of cake and goodies at these gatherings, particularly if this is happening several times a month.

You should not have any difficulty getting yourself invited to these parties. And, If the caloric demands start to get to you, perhaps you should remember some famous historical advice and let them eat cake.

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