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I work for a law firm and have to deal with a bipolar attorney who changes moods and is just plain difficult. He likes to be in control and will not let others work as a team. I have lost all respect for him. Is changing jobs the right thing to do?

Even if you work for a bipolar barrister, changing jobs should be viewed as the court of last resort. Before uprooting your career, it is important to be certain that the current situation is unworkable.

Although it is a longshot, it may be worthwhile to approach this attorney during a possible upbeat period, such as on the heels of a particular success. During this encounter, focus your comments on his specific behaviors that are interfering with your work, and let him see the value that will be added if he treats you in a more businesslike and professional manner.

If his problematic behaviors continue and you enjoy everything about the law firm except him, you may want to explore the possibility of a transfer. You would be unfair to yourself if you left this job without being certain that you did all in your power to make things work.

After taking these kinds of actions, step back and try to list the reasons why you should stay with this firm and the reasons why you should leave. If you then factor in what you feel in the pit of your stomach, you will know what to do. Either way, life is too short to put up with working for a bipolar bear.

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