|More than likely, the sister-in-law told your friend what you said about her, and that put the kibosh on your friendship while simultaneously building a bond between the two of them. Although you were disappointed that your friend did not tell you about the transfer, it would have been better if you spoke directly with her as opposed to “snooping.” If this person is truly your friend, a candid conversation between the two of you should not have been a problem. |
If you want to rebuild the relationships with these two individuals, you should meet with both of them to clear the air. You can mention that you were upset in not knowing about the transfer and the pay differential, but none of these factors is as important as having a positive relationship with them.
Going forward, continue to reach out to them and let them see that your actions are backing up your comments. If there are opportunities to help, support, or include the two of them in important matters, you should do so. By essentially hitting the restart button on your relationship with both of them, the rebuilding process should restart as well.