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I have a manager that often comes in late to our meetings and brings something to eat...just for herself. I've never seen anything like it...she crunches, munches & scrapes the bottom of the cup/bowls, etc while we sit there & watch. Then... she excuses herself to go to the restroom...sometimes multiple times. Again, while we sit there & wait for her. Have you ever seen or heard of anything like this? She is wasting so much of our time. Everyone else in our small group seems to be used to it - I am the newest member of the team and hate to just ask 'what the hell?' In my early days there, I asked another team member if that was the norm, and she said yes - but she didn't understand it. Bringing a beverage, maybe, but to assemble and spread, etc.? Do I sit & say nothing? Do I take something to eat and assemble it myself while waiting to see if it distracts her? Comments?

While itís possible to have meetings where food is served and business is conducted, itís a little odd to have a meeting where the person in charge is having a full meal while the other attendees basically watch. However, this situation is compounded by a number of factors, including her late arrivals, manners, and frequent breaks.

On the one hand, itís possible that there are health-related reasons for her behavior. If her meetings still achieve the objectives that have been established for them, perhaps this is simply the way that she needs to function. At the same time, this situation could also be a reflection of an inconsiderate and questionably competent manager whose understanding of time management, effective meetings, self-insight, and leading by example are rather challenged.

The best way to deal with this matter may not be to merely show up with food at the next meeting, but rather for a few of you to meet with this individual and give her factual information regarding the impact that her eating is having on the meeting and the team. Her response is likely to give you food for thought regarding how to proceed from there.

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