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I'm in the processing of a job application with my main point of contact being a recruiter that the company hired.

He was supposed to have contacted me earlier this week with a scheduled interview in which I thought would be an appropriate time to express my concerns and asked questions, but haven't. So I emailed him with concerns regarding my pay and benefits that we discussed over the phone previously, and he responded to me well, but he also wrote in his responses a line that included "think of this as an opportunity to work hard and impress," in which he underlined the word "opportunity." Am I being overly sensitive or does this seem like an arrogant attitude from his part that is telling me something like "you shouldn't be asking too much, you should be grateful we're already considering you?" Nevertheless I replied to him saying, "I apologize if I came across as expecting too much for someone of my inexperience. It is indeed an amazing opportunity and I will take your advice to heart." Do you think I handled it alright?

You certainly wrote a cordial note back to the recruiter, and if he somehow interpreted your legitimate questions as being out of line, your words should have resolved such concerns. However, there are some other concerns about this matter.

First, he said he was going to contact you earlier in the week, but he did not do so. Perhaps he is the one who should be apologizing. Secondly, you have every right to express your questions and concerns about the pay and benefits. Those types of questions deserve meaningful answers, and not a meaningless dismissal. Furthermore, it is typically a member of the company who discusses pay and benefits with job candidates, rather than an outsider.

It almost sounds like the recruiter is rushing you to take this job without having sufficient information regarding pay and benefits. He may be doing this to help you, but he may also be simply trying to help himself. Perhaps this is a great opportunity that you should seize, but you should not do so until you clearly understand exactly what is being offered in all respects.

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