|You certainly wrote a cordial note back to the recruiter, and if he somehow interpreted your legitimate questions as being out of line, your words should have resolved such concerns. However, there are some other concerns about this matter. |
First, he said he was going to contact you earlier in the week, but he did not do so. Perhaps he is the one who should be apologizing. Secondly, you have every right to express your questions and concerns about the pay and benefits. Those types of questions deserve meaningful answers, and not a meaningless dismissal. Furthermore, it is typically a member of the company who discusses pay and benefits with job candidates, rather than an outsider.
It almost sounds like the recruiter is rushing you to take this job without having sufficient information regarding pay and benefits. He may be doing this to help you, but he may also be simply trying to help himself. Perhaps this is a great opportunity that you should seize, but you should not do so until you clearly understand exactly what is being offered in all respects.