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I recently changed jobs and things were going well except for the fact that the guys in the office pick on and harass the new guy, me. I have repeatedly asked them to stop. I talked to my boss and he told them to stop, but now they are ignoring and excluding me. My boss says this is their way of backing off. I didn't do anything to deserve this treatment. What should I do?

There is no excuse for this type of behavior from your fellow employees, nor is there any excuse for your manager's failure to take action to deal with it. In fact, he sounds like a poor excuse for a manager.

When you are being ostracized or harassed by co-workers, and your manager has been so advised, his inattention ends up being no different from the actions of the offending employees. When he tells you that such ostracism is your employees' way of "backing off," he is way off.

Your manager needs to put an end to this ridiculous behavior because it is patently unfair and is also undermining teamwork, productivity, and loyalty. And further, your manager may be exposing the company to more serious claims, especially if you are in a protected category, such as those based on race, age, or gender. In a word, your manager needs to get off the dime, lest this cost the company many, many dimes.

If your manager continues to offer simplistic explanations and nothing more, you should go over his head. This is rather fitting since he is over his head anyhow.

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Posted by Endang on 2014-05-03 20:43:12
I especially acpperiate point 3: A lack of commitment to the team and its purpose is the leading problem facing most teams. So often I've been on teams where the culprit of the collapse of the team or the task is labeled as lack of outside support, lack of funding, lack of logistical connections, etc. rather than a lack of commitment on the part of the team members. If a group is seriously passionate about the purpose of a team, and members are able to work together and trust the others, there's not much on earth that they could not accomplish.