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When I interviewed for this job, I met with the person who became my boss. In the interview, he was friendly and professional. Now I see that my initial impression was wrong. He is mean, abusive, and cold. I am going to leave, and I am wondering what I can do to prevent this from happening again.

When you go on your next interview, you should not only prepare for questions you are likely to be asked, you should also prepare questions you would like to ask. Just as it is the interviewer's job to learn about you, it is your job to learn about the company and the interviewer, especially if he or she is going to be your boss.

Naturally, you would not start off the interview with a barrage of questions. However, if the interview goes well, a time will come when you are asked if you have any questions. When that moment arrives, you should go beyond the garden variety of questions about the company and include questions such as, "What kind of managerial style do you use?" "How would your employees describe you?" "Who else can I talk to so I can learn more about the company?" By using open-ended questions in combination with additional visits to the company, you should be able to get a more accurate picture of what a boss will look like on the morning after the interview.

It is also important to note that the word, "interview," literally means to see each other.

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